{"id":1584,"date":"2013-04-15T08:44:32","date_gmt":"2013-04-15T08:44:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandaretreats.com\/blog\/?p=1584"},"modified":"2013-04-23T11:44:34","modified_gmt":"2013-04-23T11:44:34","slug":"how-do-you-have-the-talk-with-your-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandaretreats.com\/blog\/archives\/1584","title":{"rendered":"How do you have \u2018the talk\u2019 with your kids?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"cb60a539-eef1-4883-9652-44d91ff29923\"<\/a>You live in an increasingly complex world that challenges you every day with a wide range of issues<\/a> that can be difficult for children to understand and for adults to explain to them. Raising a child is probably the most gratifying job any of you will ever have\u2014and one of the toughest.<\/p>\n

These practical tips and techniques can help you talk easily and openly with young children, aged 8 to 12 years, about some very tough topics.<\/p>\n

The Family Planning Association (FPA), aims to raise awareness of the importance of having \u201cthe talk\u201d with kids of all ages.<\/p>\n

According to an FPA survey, as many as 44 per cent of parents said they had given very little or no information to their children about sex and relationships.<\/p>\n

FPA parenting manager David Kesterton says: \u201cTalking to your children about sex and relationships can be a challenge.\u00a0 Parents find that once they can discuss sex and relationships confidently, communication within the family about other difficult subjects becomes much easier.\u201d<\/p>\n

Indeed, experts say it is best not to stave off discussing the facts of life until teendom, but to address those tricky questions as soon as they arise. That way, \u2018the talk\u2019 becomes not a one-off big deal but an ongoing conversation throughout childhood.<\/p>\n

And the questions can begin as young as three or four, when children begin noticing basic differences between boys and girls. Meanwhile, puberty can start as early as eight for girls and boys may have wet dreams or erections when they are very young, so it is important that children are prepared.<\/p>\n

The FPA advises using the correct names for body parts, and teaching children that it\u2019s normal to explore their own bodies \u2013 but inappropriate in public.<\/p>\n

As for the old classic, \u201cWhere do babies come from?\u201d a good answer for a toddler might be: \u201cA man and a woman have a special cuddle and then the baby grows inside the woman\u2019s tummy safe and warm, until the baby is born.\u201d<\/p>\n

Kesterton adds: \u201cThere are ways you can make it easier to talk to your child, such as using TV storylines to spark conversations, or useful books and websites. This can help your child feel that talking about sex and relationships is a normal part of family life.\u201d<\/p>\n

Other tips include:<\/p>\n

– Talk when you\u2019re doing something else, like washing up. It helps to make the subject normal and not uncomfortable<\/p>\n

– Use humour to show your child you can talk and laugh about sex and relationships<\/p>\n

– Don\u2019t panic in public \u2013 if your child asks the question at a difficult time, say: \u2018That\u2019s a good question, let\u2019s talk about it when we get home\u2019.<\/p>\n

Just make sure you do.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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